Emotional abuse is a devastating, debilitating heart and soul mutilation. The deepest lasting wound with any abuse that occurs in childhood is the emotional wound.
“There is not such thing as only being emotionally abused – I have heard many horrifying stories of physical abuse and the most damaging aspect of the physical abuse is the emotional abuse it causes – when we say “I was only emotionally abused” it is the disease minimizing the trauma we experienced. Emotional abuse is underneath all other types of abuse – the most damaging aspect of physical, sexual, mental, etc. abuse is the trauma to our hearts and souls from being betrayed by the people that we love and trust. The other types of abuse can add more levels to the healing necessary but the bottom line is the emotional abuse and it’s effect on our ability to Love and trust ourselves. In fact, being only emotionally abused can sometimes make it much harder to get in touch with our issues because it isn’t always blatant and obvious. Some of it was very subtle – some of us were abused and shamed by the way they looked at us or said our name or did not see or hear us – on a daily basis.” – Q & A 5
Emotions are a vital part of our being. We can not be whole and healthy without having an emotionally honest relationship with our self. We can not know who we Truly are if our relationship with our own emotional process is twisted, distorted, and repressed. Body, mind, and spirit are three parts of a four part equation. Emotions are the key to healing our broken hearts and wounded souls.
Our emotional reactions are messages from our being to our consciousness.
“Emotions are energy that is manifested in our bodies. They exist below the neck. They are not thoughts (although attitudes set up our emotional reactions.) In order to do the emotional healing it is vital to start paying attention to where energy is manifesting in our bodies. Where is there tension, tightness? Could that “indigestion” really be some feelings? Are those “butterflies” in my stomach telling me something emotionally? . . . . .
Western civilization has for many years been way out of balance towards the left brain way of thinking – concrete, rational, what you see is all there is (this was in reaction to earlier times of being out of balance the other way, towards superstition and ignorance.) Because emotional energy can not be seen or measured or weighed (“The x-ray shows you’ve got 5 pounds of grief in there.”) emotions were discounted and devalued. This has started to change somewhat in recent years but most of us grew up in a society that taught us that being too emotional was a bad thing that we should avoid. (Certain cultures / subcultures give more permission for emotions but those are usually out of balance to the other extreme of allowing the emotions to rule – the goal is balance: between mental and emotional, between intuitive and rational.). . . . .
3. Our emotions tell us who we are – our Soul communicates with us through emotional energy vibrations. Truth is an emotional energy vibrational communication from our Soul on the Spiritual Plane to our being/spirit/soul on this physical plane – it is something that we feel in our heart/our gut, something that resonates within us.
Our problem has been that because of our unhealed childhood wounds it has been very difficult to tell the difference between an intuitive emotional Truth and the emotional truth that comes from our childhood wounds. When one of our buttons is pushed and we react out of the insecure, scared little kid inside of us (or the angry/rage filled kid, or the powerless/helpless kid, etc.) then we are reacting to what our emotional truth was when we were 5 or 9 or 14 – not to what is happening now. Since we have been doing that all of our lives, we learned not to trust our emotional reactions (and got the message not to trust them in a variety of ways when we were kids.)” – Feeling the Feelings
I believe that codependence (outer or external dependence) has been the human condition in civilized societies for thousands of years. Being human on the planet Earth has been an emotionally abusive condition for a very long time.”
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